Social groups, or "cliques," are never more important to a girl's world than during 5th through 8th grades. Cliques do exist in high school, college, and even the adult world, but it's in middle school that girls start to get used to the idea of being in a social group.
You may think that you're not in a clique. And maybe you're right! But if you've had the same group of friends for a long time, that's pretty much what a clique is.
A clique can be a blessing because growing up is tough to do, and it's nice to have the support of good friends who are going through the same things you are. Some cliques seem to exist only to tell the secrets of other people.
Are you in a clique?
1. Watch how people come into your group. Is it easy for a person to join your group at lunch without it being a big deal? Is it possible for a person to leave your group without there being drama?
2. Look at the people in your group of friends. Is it possible that any of the girls like the other members of the group just because of their clothes, looks, or popularity?
3.Listen to the conversations that the people around you have. Is most of the talk about appearances? (How to look good, who looks good, who doesn't look good, hey I look good, etc.)
The above information was taken from the book, "The Big Book of Girl Stuff" by Bart King and His Five Sisters
Any group that insists that you act, speak, or think a certain way, is probably not a good choice. True friends are people who accept you for the wonderful person you are--just as God made you. Even if you don't dress the same way, or live in the same neighborhood, true friends see how amazing you are, and enjoy being around you.
Even though it sometimes seems cool to hang around with the more popular kids, it's not worth it if it means you have to do bad things, or treat people in a way you wouldn't want to be treated. Stay true to yourself. Don't let anyone convince you that the only way to be cool is to be like them. Love who you are, and know that you are cool even if noone else sees it but you.
You may think that you're not in a clique. And maybe you're right! But if you've had the same group of friends for a long time, that's pretty much what a clique is.
A clique can be a blessing because growing up is tough to do, and it's nice to have the support of good friends who are going through the same things you are. Some cliques seem to exist only to tell the secrets of other people.
Are you in a clique?
1. Watch how people come into your group. Is it easy for a person to join your group at lunch without it being a big deal? Is it possible for a person to leave your group without there being drama?
2. Look at the people in your group of friends. Is it possible that any of the girls like the other members of the group just because of their clothes, looks, or popularity?
3.Listen to the conversations that the people around you have. Is most of the talk about appearances? (How to look good, who looks good, who doesn't look good, hey I look good, etc.)
The above information was taken from the book, "The Big Book of Girl Stuff" by Bart King and His Five Sisters
Any group that insists that you act, speak, or think a certain way, is probably not a good choice. True friends are people who accept you for the wonderful person you are--just as God made you. Even if you don't dress the same way, or live in the same neighborhood, true friends see how amazing you are, and enjoy being around you.
Even though it sometimes seems cool to hang around with the more popular kids, it's not worth it if it means you have to do bad things, or treat people in a way you wouldn't want to be treated. Stay true to yourself. Don't let anyone convince you that the only way to be cool is to be like them. Love who you are, and know that you are cool even if noone else sees it but you.
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